Independence is Confidence

How do you know if you are independent? It's when you feel good about yourself and have no fear. You have the right to say that you are self-confident. It's when you are willing to take a chance and hope for the best. It's when you are open-minded and think of all the wonderful things that will happen in your life. It is when you finally understand "ignorance is bliss". So why do some people doubt themselves and their ability to do better in their life? What has stunted their process to grow further? People are so focused on social acceptance. But it really doesn't matter what people think as long as you think about your happiness first. When others see that you are happy, they will naturally gravitate to you. There are no societal norms. Society is made of  people, people are not perfect. If you know this, then what is stopping you to becoming more confident? More independent from what other people are doing or thinking?

My daughter got on the plane without my husband and me and was accompanied on the airline. She is only 10 years old and visiting her aunt in Texas. She said she was so excited and happy to be on a new adventure. She wasn't nervous. She was incredibly positive. She called me when she arrived. She was excited about her summer in space camp. I'm real proud of her. It really made me think about how brave she was to travel alone to go on a journey she chose for herself. She was growing up. 

People have to realize that we all must think of ourselves as children. We still have hope and we still can learn. We all can have new adventures. There is no age limit. Feel confident about yourself so you too can experience independence.

I Suck At Office Interviews

A new self-help book on Kindle called,"I Suck At Office Interviews." by B.S. Jobs caught my attention today. Now if you need some help during the interviewing process or if you just graduated from school, this is one informative yet entertaining guideline book. The good news it's not very long so you won't fall asleep. http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0089PUFHG

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZmHmM-xNq_

Historically, I've had interviewing nightmares as a recruiter and hiring manager. It was truly sad when I believe that everyone has a home. But I couldn't hire some good people because another manager or client found something wrong with them. These candidates were, in fact, well qualified for the applied jobs. Unfortunately, people are people and if recruiters or hiring managers like your image or personality, that really is what makes you a winner.  Sure, you may have some qualifications with a 2.9 GPA but if you are personable and present yourself well, you'll pass. I have interviewed some great candidates with perfect GPAs from a prestigious college but there are some hiring managers who passed them up for the "cooler" ones. Seriously, it is so high school.

Great site for Self-Published Authors!

Being a self-published author has its high and low moments. High moments is writing and publishing the book, the lows is convincing the world that you are a great writer and selling your craft. The main journey is discovering the tools about how to get your book noticed. If you think you've tried everything, maybe you didn't. I stumbled on this discussion group in Kindle and a member presented a link which is what I'm doing with you. The best thing is it's FREE!!!I discovered all helpful resources and webinars. If you are thinking about writing you should join this club.


http://authormarketingclub.com

The Truth About Depression in Adults

There have been studies regarding bullying as a child leads to adult depression.  Many adults display anxiety and relationship issues do to a lack of self-esteem or self-image as a result of not being able to problem solve or at least not having to the knowledge to do so. Parents need to  be aware that communication is key to establishing  strong  relationships and problem solving for kids. When you are bullied as a child and you cannot process thoughts effectively on how to get out of a negative situation which leads you automatically believed that you are inadequate. Parents can go a long way in teaching about self-image or problem resolutions to their children.  A strong family bond is a platform to having  confident external relationships and a true sense of identity. Reading children's books that have messages are crucial to developing  group discussions. It was the reason why my book, Moon Girl, has multiple messages in hopes to have children ask questions about her self worth and reasons why she left her post, provoking emotions and thoughts about themselves. It is great to see anti-bullying laws in both the US and Europe but it will take some time to see if how effective it will be when implementing those rules in schools. Here is a research document of  how childhood bullying leads to adult depression.
http://www.temple.edu/phobia/int/Publications/2002/199-%20Roth%20et%20al%20Teasing%20J%20anxiety%20disorders%202002.pdf

Signs of Unhealthy and Healthy Self-Esteem

I found this article from Kids Health and it's one of the reasons why I wrote my children's book. I want children to learn that they bear gifts to this world and have talent. Lack of self-esteem starts when you're a child. If you're an adult with a lack of self-worth, this may help you understand this issue stems from the beginning stages of your life.

Signs of Unhealthy and Healthy Self-Esteem

Self-esteem fluctuates as kids grow. It's frequently changed and fine-tuned, because it is affected by a child's experiences and new perceptions. So it helps to be aware of the signs of both healthy and unhealthy self-esteem.

Kids with low self-esteem may not want to try new things and may speak negatively about themselves: "I'm stupid," "I'll never learn how to do this," or "What's the point? Nobody cares about me anyway." They may exhibit a low tolerance for frustration, giving up easily or waiting for somebody else to take over. They tend to be overly critical of and easily disappointed in themselves.

Kids with low self-esteem see temporary setbacks as permanent, intolerable conditions, and a sense of pessimism prevails. This can place kids at risk for stress and mental health problems, as well as real difficulties solving different kinds of problems and challenges they encounter.

Kids with healthy self-esteem tend to enjoy interacting with others. They're comfortable in social settings and enjoys group activities as well as independent pursuits. When challenges arise, they can work toward finding solutions and voice discontent without belittling themselves or others. For example, rather than saying, "I'm an idiot," a child with healthy self-esteem says, "I don't understand this." They know their strengths and weaknesses, and accept them. A sense of optimism prevails.

My Review from Raychelle Writes!: Raychelle Reviews: Moon Girl by Beatrix Tambunan

Raychelle Writes: Raychelle Reviews: Moon Girl by Beatrix Tambunan

Moon Girl is on kindle now!

I'm incredibly excited that Moon Girl is on kindle now! What a great way to go green! Please check it out on Kindle! It's also way cheaper than print. I'm amazed that I even have UK readers too.